Over-involved parents interfere with growing up. Washington DC Psychologist, Dr. Lynn Friedman discusses the New York Times article, Raising Successful Children.

Madeline Levine author of, “Teach your children well: Parenting for authentic success” describes how important it is for parents to allow children to develop their own sense of interiority. That is, they need to develop an inner sense of who they are, what they love and what they want. To do this, she asserts, it’s vital to let children to stumble in order to learn to walk. She decries parents who coach their kids to get them into the most prestigious preschool. Similarly, she contends that coauthoring your teenager’s college application sends the message they are incapable of managing on their own. Beyond this, it conveys the idea that the adolescent’s value is somehow related to the ranking of the college he attends. She adds that this sort of, albeit inadvertent, malignant undermining enrages teenagers.

Over-involved parents interfere with growing up

I agree with Levine. Teenagers, and kids, need to be allowed to learn from their own failure. Otherwise, none of us would ever learn to walk. Moreover, it’s important to allow adolescents and younger children to fail while still under the parental wing. In this way, parents can help teenagers to learn to manage failure. So, if your teenagers is disappointed not to get the lead in the play as painful as it is – it’s a wonderful opportunity. Then, when they are out on their own if they are thrown off the horse, they can manage to get back on..

Washington DC Psychologist writes, adolescents need experience failing

Adolescents need experience failing

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